Jun 11, 2016

Usađivanje vrijednosti u naše porodice kroz ibadete / Instilling Values in Our Family Through Acts of Worship

Usađivanje vrijednosti u naše porodice kroz ibadete

Hvala Allahu dž,š, Koji nas je počastio sa izvanrednom prilikom da dočekamo mjesec ramazan i da iskoristimo dobrotu ovog mjeseca. Pozivam sve vas prisutne danas, da se svi zajedno udružimo i da se žrtvujemo  sa našim porodicama, da učimo ovaj ramazan jedan od najboljih ramazana.

Sa dolazkom ramazana, i to u trenutku, kad je svaki musliman motivisan da se približi Allahu dž,š, svako od nas treba da razmišlja kako da iskoristi ovaj mjesec i da zatvori praznine koje su se pojavile između njega i njegove porodice, braće i sestara i komšija. Drugim riječima, kako da nas naši ibadeti približe Allahu dž,š, tako isto može da ojača našu porodičnu vezu odnosno rodbinsku i svaku drugu.

Mi ne želimo da budemo marljivi u obavljanju ibadeta i dobrih djela, posta, teravije tokom ramazana, te upornog traženja Allahovog dž,š, oprosta i džennet, a u isto vrijeme se borimo i ratujemo, ne pričamo jedni s drugima, sa svojom braćom, sa svojim roditeljima, sa svojim komšijama, sa svojom djecom itd. Ovo je velika greška postača danas.

Onda kada mi dozvolimo da se naša porodična veza prekine, i bez ikakvog uloženog truda da se to popravi, onda bi nas trebala uhvatiti jeza i strah da to ne bude razlog odbijanja otvaranja dženetskih kapija.

Od Mejmun b. Mihrana prenosi se da je Omer ibn Abdulaziz rekao: Oporučiću ti tri stvari pa ih dobro zapamti. Rekoh a koje su to o zapovjedniče pravovjernih? Ne osamljuj se sa ženom bez njenog mahrema, pa makar joj i Kur'an učio, ne druži se sa onim ko kida rodbinske veze jer ga je Allah Uzvišeni i Plemeniti prokleo u dva ajeta iz njegove knjige: U ajetu iz sure Er-Rad, kada je rekao Uzvišeni: i oni koji kidaju ono što je Allah naredio da se uspostavlja. Pa do kraja ajeta. I ajet u suri Muhammed a,s: Zar i vi ne biste, kada bi se vlasti dočepali, nered na Zemlji činili i rodbinske veze kidali!
Od Džubejr ibn Mutima r,a, prenosi se da je čuo Poslanika a,s, kako kaže: U džennet neće ući onaj ko kida vezu. (Bilježi ga Buhari i Muslim.)
Od Ebu Muse El-Eš'arija r,a, prenosi se da je Poslanik, a,s kazao: Trojica neće ući u džennet: notorni pijanica, onaj ko kida rodbinske veze i onaj ko vjeruje u sihr. (Bilježi ga Ahmed, Ibn Hiban, Ebu Davud, Ibn Madže i Tirmizi koji kaže hadis je sahih.)
Ramazan je odlična prilika da ojačamo naše veze generalno, a posebno sa svojom rodbinom. Naš običaj je da pravimo iftare i da zajedno iftarimo, sa porodicama, sa prijateljima sa rodbinom itd. Poslije toga dolazi i namaz koji se klanja u džematu počevši od akšama i jacije i onda teravih namaz.
Sve su ovo načini koji nam pomažu da provedemo vrijeme zajedno i da se eventualno približimo jedni drugima. A što se tiče onih koji su prekinuli svoje odnose sa svojom porodicom i sa drugima, ovo je isto tako zlatna prilika da se popravi i da se upali žar porodičnih odnosa. Sa bereketom posta i ramazana je pravo vrijeme kada se srca zbližavaju.

Poslanik a,s, je spomenuo da se dova postača ne odbija, jer kad insan posti, on se nalazi u Allahovoj dž,š, blizini, to je jedinstvena prilika da se izmire prekinute veze.

Ako se nismo dugo čuli sa rodbinom, možemo započet sa čestitanjem ovih ramazanskih dana, i da tražimo oprost jedni za druge i jedni od drugih. Isto što se nadaš da će ti Allah dž,š, oprostiti u ovom mjesecu, potrudi se da nađeš mjesta u svom srcu da ti oprostiš drugima, onima koji su nešto loše učinili prema tebi.

Kaže uzvišeni u suri Ali Imran 133-134: i nastojte zaslužiti oprost Gospodara svoga i Džennet prostran kao nebesa i Zemlja, pripremljen za one koji se Allaha boje, za one koji, i kad su u obilju i kad su u oskudici, udjeljuju, koji srdžbu savlađuju i ljudima praštaju – a Allah voli one koji dobra djela čine:

Prenosi Enes, r.a, da je poslanik a,s, rekao: Ko želi da mu se nafaka poveća i produži životni vijek, neka pazi i redovno posjećuje rodbinu!

Imamsedin / June 10th 2016 – Ramadan 5th 1437


  
Instilling Values in Our Family Through Acts of Worship

Alhamdulillah, all praises be to Allah who has granted us with the wonderful opportunity of welcoming the blessed month of Ramadan and to reap the merits of this month. I call upon all of you present here today, let us together aim to strive, together with our families, to make the best of every second in this blessed month.

With the coming of Ramadan and at a time when every Muslim is motivated to bring himself closer to Allah, one should also think of how to leverage on this month to close any gaps in one’s relationship with one’s family. How can our acts of worship that bring us closer to Allah, also strengthen our ties of kinship with our family?

We do not want to be among those who are diligent in performing acts of worship, fasting, performing terawih prayers throughout Ramadan, steadfastly seeking Allah’s forgiveness and His paradise, yet we are fighting with our family members, breaking the ties that bind us together, or not speaking to one another, be it between siblings, parents or parent and children. This is a mistake of those who are fasting. When we allow for ties of kinship to be broken without any efforts to repair them, then it is feared that it will cause us to trip and fall at the gates of Allah’s Paradise.

This is inline with the hadith of Prophet Muhammad s.a.w: A person who breaks ties of kinship will not enter Paradise. [Hadith reported by Imam At-Tirmidzi]. Allah said in surah Ar-Ra’d 21: And those who join that which Allah has ordered to be joined and fear their Lord and are afraid of the evil of [their] account. And Allah said in surah Muhammad 22: So would you perhaps, if you turned away, cause corruption on earth and sever your [ties of] relationship?

Ramadan is the perfect opportunity for us to strengthen our relations with our family members and in general. This is because, it is a tradition for Muslims here to meet up and break our fasts together with family members, friends and neighbours. After that, we will pray together and perform terawih prayers together. All these activities can help the family to spend time together and bring them closer to one another. Keep these memories dear to us. Insha’Allah it will help us to remember and to always care for and love our family members.

For those of us who have ended our relationships with others, this is also a good time to rekindle that relationship. With the barakah of fasting, Ramadan is also the time when our hearts are softened.

Hence, Rasulullah s.a.w mentioned that the dua of a person who is fasting would not be rejected because when a person is fasting, he is close to Allah s.w.t. Hence, it is fitting for a person to rekindle the broken ties of relationships during Ramadan.

Perhaps if we have not met or spoken for a long time, we can start by wishing each other greetings to celebrate Ramadan and to seek forgiveness from each other. Just as we hope Allah will forgive us in this blessed month, strive to find the space in our hearts to forgive those who may have wronged us.

Allah s.w.t says in Surah Ali-Imran, verses 133-134: And hasten to forgiveness from your Lord and a garden as wide as the heavens and earth, prepared for the righteous. Who spend [in the cause of Allah] during ease and hardship and who restrain anger and who pardon the people - and Allah loves the doers of good.

The Messenger s.a.w said that those who enjoin good relations are those who do not retaliate what others do upon them. Enjoining good relations is when the other party (family member) refuses to, and we take the first step to rekindle the relationship. [Hadith reported by Imam Al-Bukhari]

By having good, strong relationships with our family, it will contribute to our internal happiness, bring about a positive attitude in us, which will affect how we face the world and its challenges, because we know we have strong support to get us get through difficulties. And that strong support will impact our attitude and also our ability to succeed in studies as well as work. This is because a person who is happy at home will be full of determination at work and school.

Hence Rasulullah s.a.w once said: Whoever wants his sustenance (rizk) to be eased and his age to be lengthened, then he needs to enjoin good relations. [Hadith reported by Imam Al-Bukhari]

Grab the opportunity presented to us in this blessed month to strengthen family relations, as it will bring benefits to us as individuals as well as a community, and at the same help maintain the harmony of the country.

Imamsedin / June 10th 2016 – Ramadan 5th 1437

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